Fed up of settling. Want to stop? Let me show you can stop settling.

This week I felt called to write about why so many feel they must settle, and how you can stop settling for less than what you want

Settling is a topic that seems to come up for many women I talk to, whether it be a friend or a client. For some reason they feel tor without knowing they do, that they are settling for less than what they want. Ever been told, thought or heard the following?

• ‘Your standards are just too high’.

• ‘You want too much’.

• ‘You will never find someone like that’.

• ‘You need to be realistic’.

• ‘I can’t have or find what I want’.

• ‘It’s impossible, too difficult or doesn’t exist’.

These are words that I have heard countless times; whether that be to myself or from someone else. These are just some of the words and thoughts many of my clients have experienced too. So why do we keep experiencing them? Well it’s another persons limiting beliefs, limiting thoughts, limiting actions, & limiting feelings. They feel as though it’s impossible (that they need to settle), that it’s too difficult, doesn’t exists for them and so they pass on their own opinions on to you. So you keep on hearing these very limiting beliefs, and you begin to make them true for yourself too. Whether it be a job, business, partner, place you want to live in, or experience you want to have, you end up believing that for some reason you can’t have it or that it doesn’t exist. You end up limiting yourself, and you begin to settle, settling for less than what you want.

But guess what- it’s all lies. The truth is you can have & you are worthy of everything you desire. And I honestly mean that. It’s time to stop settling.

We settle because we fear, we doubt and we worry. Many women I coach often come to me because they can’t find a romantic soulmate, they keep attracting the wrong partner, or end up staying in very unfulfilling relationships. Most of the time it’s because they fear they can not find what they want or deep down they believe they are unworthy of it. They key to finding your soulmate is actually to firstly become your own; you can read more about how to do that here.

So when we begin to work on connecting to our sense of worth, our value & acknowledge what our hearts really desire, we open up our energy to the possibilities and opportunities of what we really can have; love that we want, relationships that fulfil us, careers we enjoy, friendships that are equal and life experiences that satisfy us.

This week I urge you to begin connecting to your heart & what it truly desires. Once you begin to get the messages I invite you to ask yourself what’s stopping you from having/doing it, and find out your limiting beliefs, thoughts and feelings; often this looks like fear of being alone, self-doubt, feeling not good enough, unsure of the ‘how’, and not trusting yourself.

Top tip to stop settling:

Create a relaxed space; light some candles, put on some gentle music, I love this manifesting track, sit comfortably, place your hand on your heart, close your eyes & let your heart speak to you. Listen to it, ask it questions & let it share its desires. When you are done, grab a pen & paper and explore how you are stopping yourself & if there are areas in your life that you are settling, ask & journal on your why.

My client Maggie came to me because she wanted to find her soulmate. She had been single for longer than she desired. We worked on many beliefs that were stopping her from finding & having the relationship she wanted. We have had 5 sessions and after the 4th session she found the person she was looking for. For me this is always proof that when we change the way we think and feel about ourselves we are really truly able to have what we want.

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In the meantime, remember to keep listening to your heart, Sirin xxx